Feel like giving up on dating
Kate Ferguson Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres.When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce.And when that happens, the temptation is to give up. Your circumstances are part of His plan for your life. It means that for the Christian, despair is not an option. It’s a purpose that can bring you joy if you will trust in God and follow Him, even if your circumstances don’t change; even if that family member stays a jerk.
It’s very admirable to put yourself out there in the dating world, to forgive people who’ve wronged you, and to try and make things work with that stubborn guy you just can’t seem to get over.
In extreme circumstances, people can feel so much emotional pain that they take their own lives. But the real reason people commit suicide isn’t the pain. It’s the sense that there’s no escape, no way to resolve their problems. Remember, O God, that my life is but a breath; my eyes will never see happiness again.” – Job 6:8-12; 7:5-7 (NIV) Job knew what it was to feel despair; to lose hope; to look into the future and see only darkness. It’s not just the result of your decisions or your husband’s decisions or your parents’ decisions or your bosses’ decisions or any other human being’s decisions.
It’s the conviction that things are never going to get better. He felt as though even death would be preferable to what he was experiencing. Why should we care how he felt when God took away everything he cared about – his family, his wealth, his reputation, his health? It’s the result of a loving and wise God working in your life to accomplish His good purposes, even when those purposes don’t seem loving or good to us.
If you feel good about yourself, he should feel good about you, too.
You’re a smart, funny, beautiful woman, and you need someone who’s going to see those qualities and appreciate them in you. Here’s the thing: If you have a lightbulb go off, realize that he’s not worth your time and you decide that enough is enough, he’s either going to care or he won’t.
After a certain point, he’s just getting all of your attention and energy, but if you’re not fulfilled in return, you’re better off being more conservative with rationing that out and working on all that good old self-empowerment stuff, instead. You might not have started off feeling so desperate, but something about his elusiveness has got you chasing after him like he’s the last man on earth.